by Jocelyn Paige Kelly

Moments of Uncertainty

How can we continue with a path that feels unclear?

Uncertainty isn’t a concept that any of us feel naturally comfortable with embracing. To embrace uncertainty fully, we must accept falling towards a state of temporary lack of confidence. We must be willing to let go of our need for certainty. We must be willing to let go of our need to control the outcome of any situation.

But, how do we do this?

We build ourselves towards it.

Develop resilience.
  • Reframe from self-esteem and self-confidence towards self-compassion. Self-esteem and self-confidence will waiver in life, but self-compassion is something that can remain constant and give you valuable strength when you need it most.
  • Start a gratitude practice. A daily gratitude practice has been known to help people push through challenging times. It can also help you with developing a realistic outlook on what you have in your life rather than see things too darkly or sugar-coat what’s not there.
  • Create meaning in your daily life. This may sound like a huge task, but a daily contribution to creating meaning in your life can actually help you with the stress of uncertainty. (A few examples: Zentangle® and Buddha Doodles, Random Acts of Kindness).
  • Nurture relationships. Focus on positive ones that support you and your endeavors. Get community involved as well. You’ll be able to gain perspective from other people’s experience if you listen and look deeply.

Get clarity.
  • Know your strengths and values. When you become aware of all your strengths and personality quirks, you become grounded. Build an understanding of the core of you, and no matter what path in life you take, you will be able to weather the bumps.
  • Purchase StrengthFinders 2.0 and get the code to take their test to help you gain insight into how your strengths help you in your career. This test helps you understand the logical side of your brain.
  • Take the VIA Survey of Character Strengths questionnaire (free) to help you better understand your personal strengths and values. This test helps you appreciate the emotional side of your brain.
  • For a walk in other people’s shoes, take the fascinate test and discover how other people see you. This test will help you better communicate with others.

Be curious.
  • Ask what now or what if instead of telling yourself you can’t or won’t.
  • Consider the possibilities of any given situation. Lay out the pros and cons of any problem and ask what’s the worst that can happen. When we do this, a lot of the time we realize we can survive through our greatest fears and even our greatest fears aren’t as bad as how we imagine them to feel.
  • Take your uncertainty to mentors and ask them for their perspective on similar situations. Listen to what they have to say and see if it offers you a new perspective.
  • Learn. Take classes, read books, acquire new skills. Learning stems from a place of curiosity and often will help you in developing a resilient mind. The more you know, the more you know.



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